Singleness – Season for Sadness or Celebration

I am going to scream if I see another engagement ring!!

Have you ever had this thought? If yes, then you are struggling with being single, alone or without that special someone you can share the rest of your life with. You may think, “what’s wrong with me?” or “why is everyone getting married but me?” It is a slap in the face.

This is a normal feeling – a “short term” feeling.

Singleness is a gift from God. Embrace it! Enjoy it! Experience it!

Get up and get out! YOU are responsible for your own happiness. This is a chance to explore new things – join a social club, volunteer your time helping those in need, take a dance class, try a new recipe, or start journaling. The goal here is to turn your singleness into a season of celebration not sadness.

It is important to understand that this is your season (which is temporary). Seasons do change. Remember, singleness is a gift from God. Embrace it! Enjoy it! Experience it!

Enjoy your gift of Singleness!

Over 100 followers – what a milestone!

I am so grateful for reaching this milestone – 100 followers. The use of this platform continues to be a big part of my life’s journey. Your “likes”, “comments”, “ideas”, and “stories” keep me going.

The days are tough and long, but I hope my blog inspires single parents to keep keeping on. Others have done it and so can we!!

Cheers to another 100!

When in doubt, TAPP it Out.

RING!!!! The alarm goes off and scares you to oblivion. You shove the clock to the other side of the night stand and it falls to the floor. At that moment, you realized it was going to be one of “those” days!

You overslept and are unable to satisfy the morning routine of meditation and prayer; there’s no time to blend the protein, vitamin packed smoothie and make lunches for the day. 

The process of waking up the kids is a task, getting them dressed and searching for the tie to complete the school uniform seems endless. Finally, you manage to get everything done and it’s time to walk out of the door.

But wait! You hear a small voice. That voice says, “mommy, I need to use the bathroom.” As you lean against the wall attempting to hold it together, your heart sinks to the pit of your stomach. You drop everything – cell phone, smoothie cup, purse, laptop bag, and lunch. Nooooooo….

That is when you take a moment and TAPP it out!

Take a deep breath

Acknowledge the issue

Put things into perspective

Pray for strength and guidance

Parenthood is one of the most rewarding roles to have. However, we must be honest and recognize it can be one of the most exhausting. I encourage you to find something you enjoy doing to help maintain balance – read a good book, workout, start a blog, take a vacation or try a new class. Learning something new is a good way to boost one’s self confidence.

Share something new you have tried to help maintain balance in your life. I look forward to hearing your responses.

Book Festival Family Fun

With much anticipation, the Decatur Book Festival returned to one of it’s most thriving cities 15 minutes outside of Atlanta, Georgia – the City of Decatur. 

Annually, the Atlanta Journal Constitution (AJC), Emory University and the City of Decatur collaborate to bring this amazing book festival to life. Men, women and children travel near and far to enjoy street food, children’s activities, live music, and meet some of the most astute authors in the region. For more detailed information sbout the book festival then visit the official website at

At this event, I had the pleasure of listening to interviews of 2 amazing book authors – Stacey Abrams and Bill Curry. 

Stacey Abrams

Stacey, an American politician, lawyer and author served in the Georgia House of Representatives from 2007 to 2017, and served as minority leader from 2011 to 2017 (Wikepedia 2019). Her intelligence, compassion and self motivation exudes in drive to represent the disenfranchised. It was truly an honor to have her sign my copy of her latest book – Lead from the outside – How to build your future and make real change.

For more information about Stacey’s book then click on the link below

Bill Curry

Bill, a retired American football coach and former player, spends his time giving inspirational and motivational speaches about the positive impact and life lessons learned while playing the game of football. All of which are highlighted in his latest book, “Ten Men You Meet in the Huddle – Lessons Learned from a Football Life.

For more information about Bill and his latest book then visit his website at

Both my son and I found books that piqued our interests. This event was not only a fun festival of events, but an educational experience focusing on compassion, collaboration and community.

The next time a book fair is in your town, take the kids and enjoy what it has to offer. You will be pleasantly surprised.

I’d like to hear about your experience. Be sure to comment below.

– A Lavender Place

Volunteer and be the Experience

A volunteer is a person who freely offers to take part in an enterprise or undertake a task (Webster 2019)

As a single parent, one most likely feels as though their existence is a sequence of volunteer adventures. These day-to-day experiences ensure our children become good stewards and productive citizens.

Parents, it is our responsibility to ensure this happens.

Reasons to volunteer

  1. Be the example

  2. Build self confidence

  3. Gain new skills

  4. Regain an appreciation for life

  5. Make new friends and network

I encourage you to sit down with your child(ren), choose a volunteer project, and enjoy the experience together. It allows them to see and feel the value in “giving back.”

Volunteer Match

Goodwill Services

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– A Lavender Place

A Prayer for Tiresome Days

When the work day gets the best of you!

Dear single parents,

After a long, grueling and taxing work day take some time to restore your mind with this simple prayer…

Father, clear my sleepy head and fill my mind with expectation. Awake my slow body and energize my heart with love in action. Ignite my spirit and set this day on fire with promise. Make the ordinary extraordinary. Engage me, show me your kingdom alive. Help me to see that every waking moment is full of promise because of you. Amen.

All the best,

-A Lavender Place


Be a TESTimony

We survive our troubles to provide for those in need; therefore, single parents are encouraged to build meaningful and positive relationships with people other than their children. These friendships serve as a foundation to build the support system needed in a one parent home. This is by design and not open for discussion or debate. It is a master plan to aid in village growth. The same village that helps protect their children.

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.” (Psalms 46 1-3 NIV).

Difficult times breed life lessons which result in personal elevation. Once the difficult time, known as a TEST, has passed it becomes a TESTimony. It is our responsibility to share this testimony with someone in need.

Keep giving! Keep living! Keep thriving!

What is your TEST? Share your TESTimony in the comments section and be a blessing to other single parents.

I look forward to reading your comments.

-A Lavender Place